things are much better. i also edited my female vulcan tactical officers and mines bio's to be like so:
George Kane was an Elite force ops member who served under Commander Alexander Munroe on the Enterprise-E and Captain Jean-luc Picard.
During a training excercise on vulcan, he met female vulcan secutity specialist (local ,non starfleet) T'pon, at first they did not get along, but during a long training mission on a vulcan remote desert area, she and he were trapped in a cave who's entry collapsed from an explosion. She entered ponn far and he helped her. As the bond creates an immediate connection,it was not easy to try and sever after. They both struggled to forget what happened, but when she was found to be pregnant, they only got closer. Finally, marrying, they had a daughter named T'lanna. Though late in life, botth decided to enter starfleet academy together. (George was an nco equivelent to a sergeant.) when these events start this explains why he at age 39,and she, are technically noobs and one pippers.