here is something really awesome for my situation!

i've been with my soulmate Steve for going on 12 years now - it is looking very very likely RI will legalize same-sex marriage which means finally we can do this

and August 1st is my b-day
R.I. Senate approves same-sex marriage 26 to 12 / VideoPROVIDENCE, R.I. -- The state Senate voted 26 to 12 Wednesday to allow same-sex couples to marry in Rhode Island as early as Aug. 1.
The bills, the latest in a long-line of gay marriage bills dating back to 1996, now go to the House, which voted 51 to 19 earlier this year to pass an earlier version of one of the bills.
The Senate votes followed more than 90 minutes of debate, during which several senators rose to explain their reasons for supporting or opposing the legislation.
The House Judiciary Committee is expected to take up the bills next Tuesday, which could allow a House floor vote as early as Thursday. If passed, Rhode Island would become the tenth state nationwide, and the sixth and last in New England, to legalize same-sex marriage.